I dunno about you guys and gals, but there used to be a time in my life where I was not the positive person that people see me as today. Anytime I looked into any mirror, I would tell myself something negative about my appearance, or I would avoid the mirror and cameras all together. I was extremely nasty and mean; fat and ugly came up for me the most. Kids picked on me a lot at school, which helped to reinforce my negative views about myself.
Believing What You Tell Yourself
I would never say such cruel things to any person, so I don’t know why I thought that it would be acceptable for me to criticize myself so harshly for so long. I always looked for the negativity in my appearance without thinking of its cumulative effect. Once I realized what I was actually doing is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy that I actually believed, I realized I could instead choose whether to focus on negative or positive attributes.
“You look fine today.”
It’s a hard habit to break, but self-love starts with saying to yourself regularly that you look fine or ok and stop telling yourself the hurtful negative things. Slowly, it will start to become a habit and you will find yourself looking for the good things that are there, instead nit-picking petty flaws that no one pays attention to except yourself. To remind yourself to say positive things, put some positive affirmations on sticky notes close to the mirrors in your home.
Positive Practice Makes Perfect
Eventually, with practice, looking for the positive side will become automatic, not only when you look in the mirror, but also when you view situations which are out of your control. I’m slowly starting to appreciate the face and body that I was given and I find myself looking for awesomeness in myself as well as other people and things on a more regular basis.