WPwatercooler #173 – Integrating Social into WordPress

wpwatercooler173Suzette Franck appears on this episode with regulars Steve Zehngut, Se Reed, Russell Aaron, Jason Tucker, Jason Cosper, Dave Jesch, and Jon Brown to discuss several different aspects of integrating social media into your WordPress website. Among the topics talked about included Social network log on buttons for WordPress. We also discussed Facebook likes vs. WordPress likes vs. Twitter favorites, social commenting systems such as Facebook Comments and Disqus, and Mark Zuckerberg. We also mentioned using Jetpack or other plugins that allow you to share each post, as well as 3rd party services such as ShareThis and AddtoAny and more plugins that add a centralized button to the main social media accounts. For the full description of the show and links to plugins mentioned, please see the show notes on that shows’ post on WPwatercooler.




Positive Cognitive Change: You Look Fine

I dunno about you guys and gals, but there used to be a time in my life where I was not the positive person that people see me as today. Anytime I looked into any mirror, I would tell myself something negative about my appearance, or I would avoid the mirror and cameras all together. I was extremely nasty and mean; fat and ugly came up for me the most. Kids picked on me a lot at school, which helped to reinforce my negative views about myself.

Believing What You Tell Yourself

I would never say such cruel things to any person, so I don’t know why I thought that it would be acceptable for me to criticize myself so harshly for so long. I always looked for the negativity in my appearance without thinking of its cumulative effect. Once I realized what I was actually doing is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy that I actually believed, I realized I could instead choose whether to focus on negative or positive attributes.

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“You look fine today.”

It’s a hard habit to break, but self-love starts with saying to yourself regularly that you look fine or ok and stop telling yourself the hurtful negative things. Slowly, it will start to become a habit and you will find yourself looking for the good things that are there, instead nit-picking petty flaws that no one pays attention to except yourself. To remind yourself to say positive things, put some positive affirmations on sticky notes close to the mirrors in your home.

Positive Practice Makes Perfect

Eventually, with practice, looking for the positive side will become automatic, not only when you look in the mirror, but also when you view situations which are out of your control. I’m slowly starting to appreciate the face and body that I was given and I find myself looking for awesomeness in myself as well as other people and things on a more regular basis.

Additional Resources

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